Hello. I'm a new user on this site. My wife and I have been married for 5 years, everything was fine between us. However, recently I began to notice that she was different: she changed her wardrobe, began to use more expensive perfumes. When she back late after work again, I realized that something was wrong in our relationship. After that, I decided to see the messages on her phone while she was sleeping (I never thought I could, but I couldn’t do otherwise, talking with her didn’t help, she said that everything is fine with us), she returned home late, I went to bed, I took her phone, opened messages and what I saw only broke my heart. She had intimate correspondence with one employee at work. There were "frank" messages and photos. It hurt me so much that I could hardly restrain myself to wake her.
The essence of my question is only, can I prepare documents for a divorce to scare her? I still want to save our family, but I have no idea how to behave in this situation. Now I spend more time at work, I don't want to return home, so as not to mess. Help with advice on what to do. Thanks!